Dear Ladies,

Happy 2018! The newsletter of Fall 2017 (click here for back issues) took a hiatus while I wrote the book, but now Woolfers Stephanie Staal, Kris King, and I are bringing it back for the new year. Every other Friday we’ll bring you a few hot topics from Woolferland, a product (or more) of the week (which could be anything — culture, food, clothing, you name it), our “Woolfer of the Week” feature through which you’ll get to know our members better, and a recap of upcoming live events all over the country. Short and sweet.

A little background on our team: About a million years ago, I hired Stephanie when we were both fresh out of Barnard. I was eight months pregnant with my first child and had just started a literary scouting company. After five great years together in the world of NYC book publishing, Stephanie left to pursue a Masters in Journalism and then later a law degree. We’ve always wanted to work together again, so this seemed like a fun opportunity:)  Kris also happens to be a Barnard alum (!), as well as a publicist, and we met through the group just a few months ago and already feel like twins in so many ways.  She’s newly moved back to NYC from Connecticut and volunteered to help make this great.

As we kick off the new year, a huge contingent of us are engaged in a DRY JANUARY — whether not drinking alcohol, or cutting out gluten and sugar, or all of the above (see The Whole 30 diet, which many of us love), we’re supporting each other in a desire to cleanse and hit the re-set button on our bad habits. Note: This is not about weight; it’s about feeling our best. For some, that extends to NOT CALLING THAT EX, or to re-evaluating friendships that aren’t working, and the support of the tribe is invaluable. Personally, I’m on Day 5 of all of the above, and so far, so good!

Wishing each and every one of us all the best possible in 2018.  I look forward to making each other laugh and cheering each other on, both of which we do so well.



Hot Topics

The holidays can have a funny effect on us. There was more talk than usual on relationships and sex as 2017 came to a close. The sex posts were all anonymous and sparked some healthy debate: one Woolfer wanting to try group sex with her beloved, but resistant, husband (overall consensus: DON’T DO IT), another Woolfer worrying that she’s a prude for being anti-anal play (overall consensus: lots of us love it and lots of us hate it, nothing wrong with you either way). Meanwhile, for those curious-yet-undecided-about-anal Woolfers among us, here’s a handy primer — from Teen Vogue of all places … On the relationship front, a really moving thread emerged about “things your lovers have said to you that you’ll never forget.” Sadly, the question brought up many painful memories about our exes, but the airing was cathartic, and also made us realize how very resilient we are. It reminded us of Woolfer Cameron Gearen’s searing essay on her divorce, After the End, which inspired a ton of comments earlier last month and encouraged many Woolfers to share their own stories. Here’s to new beginnings!

WWVWD Book Club

Last Spring, in response to a New York Public Library list that didn’t quite jive with us, Woolfers created our own list of 100 books by women that everyone must read (we even published it on HuffPo), and now we’ve decided to create a book club to celebrate all of these fabulous books. We’ll do it quarterly, with a Facebook Live discussion, moderated by a rotating cast of volunteer moderators from the group.

Book #1Laurie Colwin’s HAPPY ALL THE TIME (click to purchase on Amazon)

If you never read it, you must, and if you have, it’s a great one to savor all over again. And it will make you happy in these dark days of winter, we promise!

When: Sunday, February 11, 1pm PST, 4pm EST

Who: moderated by Carla Sarett and Katy Aisenberg

Where: Facebook Live, in the WWVWD Book Club sub-group on Facebook.

“It is often to the wary that the events in life are unexpected. Looser types — people who are not busy weighing and measuring every little thing — are used to accidents, coincidences, chance, things getting out of hand, things sneaking up on them. They are the happy children of life, to whom life happens for better or worse.”   
— Laurie Colwin

Woolfer of the Week

Yen Ha
Maker of spaces, stories, drawings and dinners, 43, NYC.


What do you want us to know about you?
I can’t sit still. I run an architectural practice in Manhattan. I write short stories that have been published and draw drawings that have been purchased. Sometimes I knit and host dinner parties, not at the same time. My kids and husband tolerate my ridiculous compunction to organize.

If you had a warning label, what would it be?

What is the strangest thought to cross your mind as you lay awake in the middle of the night?
If my husband dies, will I be able to afford our apartment or will I have to move, with the kids, to a two-bedroom in Queens, and if I move to Queens will I have to give up my architectural practice and find a corporate job so we can even afford Queens?

What would you not reveal about yourself on a first date?
Sometimes when I drink too much wine and eat too much food I have violent stomach cramps and diarrhea immediately afterward. That’s why it’s taking me so long in the bathroom after I politely excused myself while you were asking for the check.

Pic We Love of Badass Joan Didion

If you haven’t seen The Center Will Not Hold (Netflix) — do yourself a favor and see it.

Woolfer Wants

The Natori “Feathers” Bra. Half of all Woolfers may own this bra already, but we’re featuring it in the first newsletter back because it has attracted such a huge number of devotees in the group, and we truly believe that it’s the best bra out there for a combo of comfort, value, and style. Nina’s fuschia one has really been a hit at home, and moderator Jenny Douglas reports “I’ve gone Natori Feathers Wild. I now have six of them, and my girls each got one for Christmas!”

We thought you might enjoy this neon work by Suzy Kellems Dominik, apparently the most Instagrammed piece at Art Basel 2017.

Upcoming IRL Events

Check out our upcoming events on the website! We’re particularly excited  to see Tinder Live! with Lane Moore at Littlefield in Gowanus, Brooklyn on Saturday, January 13, and then the next day we have a sold-out Scrabble tournament on January 14 — four boards, sixteen players, four alternates, and a grand prize of a stay at The Forsyth B&B in Kingston, NY, donated by Woolfer Tamara Ehlin!

Later in the month we have a special sort of cocktail party catered by Baked at Home, groups meeting to march together in NYC and LA for the January 20 Women’s March, and in the works a March event (bondage tutorial, anyone?) offering a hefty discount at Babeland 🙂


See you in two weeks,
xoxox  Nina, Stephanie, and Kris

The Woolfer Newsletter Team
Stephanie Staal and Nina Collins have worked together and adored each other since 1994 when they were both babies in the world of book publishing. Stephanie is a lawyer, journalist, & author of READING WOMEN, and Nina is the founder of "What Would Virginia Woolf Do?" Hillary Richard is also a lawyer and co-host of the Raging Gracefully podcast. Sidney Morss is a recent NYU grad and the youngest member of our team.