What do you do for work?
Happily nothing. I’m retired and a military veteran (Army). After that, I toggled between two careers, database administrator and legal assistant/paralegal while raising children successfully (and a few husbands unsuccessfully). After a divorce, I got an AA in Paralegal Studies and at age 43, a BS in Information Technology. At 50, I applied for a college tuition waiver on a whim and was surprisingly and unexpectedly accepted, so back to academia I went, receiving an MA in Public Policy and International Affairs.
After retirement and the kids flew the coop, I got a passport and developed a major case of wanderlust. I travel as much as possible and can now say I’m a world traveler, island-hopping in the Caribbean and traipsing around Europe and the U.S. I even did the drive from California to New York with my oldest son. My favorite place is Ireland. When a family member relocated there, I went to visit and fell in love with the country and the people and visit often. I enjoy fashion, photography, creating digital art and I play the guitar, write songs and sing.
Honestly, I don’t have any. Actress Jennifer Aniston once said, “There are no regrets in life, just lessons.” I agree. Life is just a series of experiences that range from good to bad and in between. The key is how you choose to cope, adjust and learn from each experience. I choose to fly by the seat of my pants and grab life by the balls.
Can you describe your fantasy version of your older self?
At 57, I think I am already my “older” self and I am what I’d visualized as a younger woman. I plan on going gracefully, grandly, fashionably and exuberantly into the future. My favorite quote is by Hunter S. Thompson. “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!” That is so me!
What’s your biggest fear?
Heights and bears. Yet I still fly and hang out in bear-infested places. You might find me in a forest armed with bear spray and a Bowie knife or clinging to a railing atop a scenic overlook in both horror and amazement.
What’s your guilty pleasure?
Dresses, tattoos, and castles. I probably own over a hundred dresses from Boho Chic to Red Carpet-ready. I also indulge in the occasional tattoo. I have five so far, the last gotten at 57. Maybe one more. And I love exploring castles anywhere.
What does the group mean to you?
This group is a place where I can discuss, debate, freely share and celebrate being a “woman of a certain age” (I abhor that expression). Where else on the Internet can I discuss chin hairs, relationships, back fat, bras, make-up, world events, growing old gracefully, fashion, women’s issues, and my vagina?
What do you consider your biggest achievement to date?
I have three. My sons. They are now 35, 33 and 26 and I must say they turned out rather well and are good humans.
Tell us something surprising about yourself.
I have several skeletal issues and have since childhood including hip dysplasia, degenerative disk disease, osteoarthritis, and others. I have been having surgeries and various treatments since age 12 and been confined to a wheelchair more than once for extended periods of time. At this point, I’m a cyborg and partially bionic. I now have to walk with an assistive device, but does that stop me? It may sit me down from time to time, but stop me? Nope.